you have some fabulous friends here and they are giving you great advice,, for sure stop taking temperature!

I made mini goals for myself like the DR book says and promised myself not to take temp until say 4 weeks from now and even when I waited til my day,, the results were not always what I wanted to hear.

It is like being a kid in a candy store,, OR you feel her coming around and you just want to fast forward to the good part,,,, like people always told me this is not a sprint it is a Marathon,,,,,

.... you are doing great just try to detach a little more like they are telling you,, be there for her and listen to her and let her know ( do not literally tell her ) that you are leaving the door open for her ,,,
THIS is very hard but I know you can do this.

I felt like my H was playing with me too,,, I went thru exactly what you are feeling and I coined it like do I continue to play house or do I stop? I felt like a fool for loving him and he was just sooooooooooo lost. One of my threads was even titled FOOL IN LOVE,,,

I ALWAYS TRIED TO REMEBER TO JUST ENJOY THE BLESSING WHEN HE WOULD BE HOME EVEN THOUGH INSIDE MY HEART WAS BREAKING,,
AND IT SEEMED THE STRONGER I GOT AND THE MORE I LET GO AND JUST TRUSTED THE WHOLE PROCESS THE MORE "safe" HE FELT WITH ME.

We have been Reconciled @ 5 months now and it is still like we learning more and more about one another,, and we have been Married for ten years ..... and every month that goes by we both get more comfortable that this is going to be ok.It takes time.

Keep up the good work and keep believing and praying...
God bless....