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Hi jersting. I was wondering what was going on here.

I'll quote you in bold:

Positives I see in your sitch:

• asked if we could go Christmas shoping the next day.
• she wanted me to get in bed with her.
• The next day we had dinner at my place
• We hugged
  
• we are getting along good. - (Holy cow, she said this?). Wow!

That was what jumped out at me.

Here are a few negative things I see:

I new she would be uncomfortable and maybe a little grumpy.

How did you know this? Mindreading? Maybe there's more to the story here, but I don't see it.

I went out and messed up a little by asking her "do you know where I stand with you?" She replied yes and I asked if she would share with me. She just ignored me and we went back in.

Resist the temptation to take the temperature of your R right now. Nothing good can come of it. Worst case is she tells you your worst fear. At best, it's pressuring to her.

She said don't push, we are getting along good. I didn't say anything else.

OK, so you made a few mistakes, but a good save here, I think.

My patience are getting the best of me. I feel like she is just playing me to keep me around till after the holidays and she is going to go ahead with the D.

OK, so you need to remember to be more patient. How can you stop these thoughts when you're getting impatient?

Oh, and the second sentence? More mindreading perhaps? Is she that much of an actor that all the positives I listed are just her ploy to make a nice holiday for all and then - Wham, here's the D?

How likely is that? Seems unlikely to me. I've seen it, and have heard from many others, that if they're he!!-bent for D, they won't care about stuff like the holidays. I'm sure gh and other vets would affirm this.

I hope I am wrong, but with me feeling this way, it makes it hard to just go along status quo.

So try to snap yourself out of it. Ask yourself if you're jumping to conclusions that are unwarranted? Ask yourself if you're ignoring all the small positive signs coming from your wife? Step back from the emotion and try to look at things objectively (hard I know). Imagine that everything that's happening to you is happening to me instead. What would you be telling me if you were looking in on this?

Buck up man, I think things are not as bad as you think/feel they are.

Take care, I'm pulling for you and so are many others. I know you can do this. Stay strong.

Added on edit:

Dang, toughlover types faster than I do. What I've put is verbatim what he's got....