You want her to be able, some day, to see a future with you that is happy, free, light, and loving...not one filled with arguments, hurt, and dwelling on the past. Just show her that tonight by having a good time, no heavy stuff, take the high road no matter what. Lead your family into the future by just letting go of the pain and just being cool. Give her the time and space to get quiet and see that there's more possible than what she might have thought. Be the kind of guy she's going to want to accompany into that future...maybe some day she'll just walk right out of that depression and back into your marriage.
In other words, kick some butt, DB style
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
