Just getting started piecing it back

[jersting]

I called wife after work last night to return her call from the night before. That was probably a mistake. It seems this game she is playing is no matter what I do it is wrong. She was in a bad mood and told me so. She said she didn't want to talk to me then and I said ok talk to you later. This made her even madder. She would not let me hang up and started telling me that I am never there when she wants to open up to me. (Talking about the 1 call I did not take the night before.) Then she got somewhat rude and said "I am going to go now, bye". I said bye and that was it. A couple hours later she called me again and was still very rude with me. I asked her what the problem was and she said she was in a pissy mood and was not happy with life right now. I asked what she could do to make things better for herself and she replied with "I don't know". (I get alot of these.) She was upset that she was going to have to throw a b-day party for D10 on the 16th and didn't know if she was going to be able to buy Christmas presents or anything because she didn't have enough money. (she has been shoping every weekend since the seperation and she bought new living room furniture and paid for it on credit card). She realy has a spending problem. Been in credit card debt problems several times throughout our marriage. After about the second time about 5 years in the marriage, I closed all joint accounts and she got new cards just in her name. I bailed her out on these twice in the last 8 years. (big debt)
She told me that she didn't know if she could make it through b-day party and Christmas without me and the rest of life for that matter and she was mad about this. I asked if she wanted to trade places with me and she said "no I won't leave my kids. I said well if you just want me to pay for things for the next few weeks, I can't afford to because as she well knows, I am paying for all of the bills at her house, all of my bills, fixing up a junk old house and giving her 100 week in support over and above all of the other stuff I am paying. (this is all court order). She said she didn't want me to pay for things, she just wanted to tell me what was on her mind. I talked with her and listend to her concerns and kept my mouth shut on trying to give her solutions and she just seemed to get mad more and more as we talked. She seemed very rude to me and I told her so. She didn't make any appologies for being rude, she just said she was tired and ready to go to sleep. I said I would let her go and we would talk later. She agreed and we hung up. I thought of something I had been meaning to ask her about 20 min. later and I tried to call back and she was on the phone. This made me nuts because she said she was going to sleep and here she was on the phone. I thought I had controll of myself in these sitchs, but apparently I don't yet. I waited a few minutes, called back and she was still on phone. Waited about 10 minutes and called back she was still on phone, left message that I just didn't know what to say and thought it was wrong of her to be this way with me. 15 minutes later I called back and she had shut off her phone. I called the home phone just brewing at this time and asked why she had been that way and she said she just didn't want to talk to me. I said "you just don't care for me at all do you". Her reply..."your way off on that one." I said you probably don't want me to come over and talk and she replied no not tonight. I said ok sleep well, talk to you later and we hung up. I don't know why I said all of this, I guess just to let every one know some of the details of what is happening with me. If any one wants to pull a 2x4 out on me or just chime in with their thoughts on things, I will be happy to read it.