Just getting started piecing it back

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Geezus people, I hate people making me sound like a diety or something, lol.

OK, how about this.....that GH, he's an alright guy with some ok advice here and there :-P

I hate to admit it, and this HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW I THINK YOUR SITCH IS GOING, but for many of us, this ends up being much more about who we become as individuals, forged by the fire of a near-relationship fatality (or one that's DOA) as it is about how well we do in saving our marriages.

Funny you should mention this GH, because it really kind of sums up the essence of what we are doing here. Early on in our sitchs, I remember us trying to decipher this "mystery", so to speak, of what this was all about. Basically, I thinked you've summed up very well...its about growing as an individual, learning to love unconditionally, and recognizing that we can't control others and their actions, but our actions, thoughts, etc. can influence those around us.

Something I might add to this string of advice for Jersting, and I think it was mentioned above, the key is really to learn the line between wanting your relationship with your wife and NEEDING it. It can be a thin line, but there is a huge amount of difference. Being a puppy dog will NOT help you grow or make your relationship stronger. Think about it, when you were courting your wife...did you act that way? Probably not!

I think it was OT who used to liken it to the annoying co-worker in the office who seems desperate for a friend. Sure, you might feel sorry for them, maybe you even say hi to them every once in a while, but overall, you usually try to avoid them.

Well, that's my .02 worth.