Geezus people, I hate people making me sound like a diety or something, lol.
In any event, you sound GREAT Jersting. Realize that not all my advice, Sven's or Xue's is going to apply but if you think about all of it, REALLY think about it, you can't help but learn through the exercise. You are building relationship muscles as sure a going to the gym builds real ones.
The bottom line, as always, is that you now understand how little real CONTROL you have over her yet, on the flip-side, just how much INFLUENCE your actions/words may have.
Keep that focus on you, let the little things slide off...and remember, they're ALL little...and just keep going/growing.
I hate to admit it, and this HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW I THINK YOUR SITCH IS GOING, but for many of us, this ends up being much more about who we become as individuals, forged by the fire of a near-relationship fatality (or one that's DOA) as it is about how well we do in saving our marriages.
If you truly do your best at trying to let go, grow yourself, and BE the man you want to be, you have done all you can. Don't fret over the rest of it.
