Quote: Apply this one event to your overall sitch. Learn to just live your life. Give up your expectations about what she may or may not do. Let HER participate in this without trying to manipulate everything she does. She'll never think it was her idea to do it if you are constantly trying to pull her strings.
Let her come to you and come without the burden of your expectation and then let her walk away without the chains of your need holding her down. Then the next time she gets a wild hair up her a$$ to call you, visit you or just give you a hug, she won't think "If I do that, he'll think it means something I'm not sure it does yet...so I'll hold off...or not do it at all."
This is precisely what worked in my sitch - when I LET GO of all expectations - started living life for ME - it had huge benefits - all around. And as an added benefit, I got my W back - but I will tell you - as hard as it might be to believe, *I* became the real winner. I've been able to learn so much about myself and *MY* happiness - that is where it starts.
And on the wedding ring thing - yea, let it go. I'll tell you I took mine off after dropping my 180 in MC back in February - and get this - she was the first to put hers back on. I then went months without - she actually asked me to put it back on. How do you like them apples?
Keep coming around - you can do this.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
