Does she deserve it? maybe not, but that's not the point, we, the LBS, are in the position of deciding to love the "unlovable", it took me a few weeks to realize what I had to do, to decide to be happy for me and that I could wait for my H.
It is a hard pill to swallow, we all know where you are coming from, sometimes it takes us a while to understand what we must do. Decide each day to fight for your M to the bitter end, face the dragon of fear and slay it each times it comes to you.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.