My world is falling apart, please help with adivce

[TinaG]

I agree with Saphire, don't worry about the what if's of the future.

That very thing was brought into perspective to me yesterday when my sister and I were talking about her H's cancer. (after operation, kemo etc. he is now cancer free!)When they found out about it, it was a shock and there were tears and panic. After the dust settles and it sinks in you realize that there is nothing that you can do to control the situation, to see into the future as to how it will all turn out. You have to live with it and hope for the best. Getting angry about it, terribly depressed about it or trying to deny it will not change the outcome, just make it more uncomfortable getting there. You can't hurry the process because that is just what it is, a process. If we could see into the future and knew what was coming all the time life would not be challanging at all.

Take the time that you are apart to work on yourself, you will get through this!!!! Just breathe!

This was posted by Glo on one of my threads

As much as we HATE the situation, we are empowered by our CHOICE to try this and not give up.

Doesn't that make you feel good? This is your choice to "fight" for your marriage by accepting the circumstances and working on your independence and focusing on your kids.

Tina