Dear Coco, I agree with wise ol' Saph. Breathe girl, breathe. You need to stop panicing...though I know the feeling. You may want to drift over to MLC board as it seems your H is suffering from immaturity which is much like MLC (could it be the same???)
If you choose to salvage your M as most of us here are trying to do, it will take a while. There will be no quick fix. the first things to do are: stop panicing dont beg, pursue, argue, pursuade or demand pray think about what is best immediately for you and your children if the depression persists, seek medical help find a good counselor who is promarriage
read alot on this BB and post when you need to
Sorry you are here...visit my thread if you need me shockedandamazed