Yes, I understand. I'm so glad you answered me. Your experience is so close to my W's.
I kind of sensed way back when I was dating her that this Man wasn't completely out of her life and he would resurface at some point. I just didn't pay attention to the red flags because I loved her so much.
Her last volunteered comments on him were that she still cared about him, but wasn't in love with him. She now says she's confused and just wants to be left alone, that she's fine on her own. I'm not sure what to believe from her anymore, but I've accepted "what is" and am finding myself moving on more and more each day.
What makes this so difficult is she really hasn't had the chance to see "what if" because the Man did not get paroled and this could go on for years. She really didn't get to experience this Man on the outside, so her question of "what if" has not been answered. I'm not going to want to deal with this situation every time this Man is up for parole.
I know we could have had so much joy together into the future and that's what makes this situation so sad. I have no choice but to move on with my life.
Thanks Amy!
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
