That's what can get a person every time. I know because when I was 19 I was terribly "in love" with someone. We were like two peas in a pod. Unfortunately for me, he was married to a friend of mine. I went into the Air Force to get away from the temptation and all those feelings I couldn't comprehend at such a young age. Once I came back home for good, we all drifted apart naturally. They had become extremely dysfunctional.
I got married and I loved my husband dearly but I recall a phone conversation with my Aunt in which I said "there is only one person in the world that would ever be a threat to my marriage". I then named that person, whom my Aunt also knew. I had no idea the power in those words. A few years later, in MLC and already lost, guess who the enemy brought back to me? Yep. HIM. Newly single and stone cold sober. Whatever part of me wasn't already a mess soon became one. All those emotions from all those years ago, coupled with the personal stuff I was lost in, wrecked my marriage. As you have no doubt heard, the enemy often comes as an angel of Light and my would be hero soon became a full-out stalker.
Can an emotional affair be more devastating than your run-of-the-mill-I-just-met-him-and-sparks-flew affair? You better believe it.
What you have going for YOU, though, is the fact that her EA is not based on reality, but on her feelings from the past...and what might have been. This will run it's course. But they won't end up together and my bet is your wife is in for a whole lot of new regrets...
It was just the other night that my Grandmother said to me that I had to go "there"...I had to find out that my particular OM was not the man of my dreams. That was the only way I would ever realize that my husband WAS.
