I'm no expert but your H sounds emotionally abusive. He is controlling all aspects of your life. He is using your mistakes to keep you isolated and under his thumb. He is using your mistakes as a means of NOT dealing with any of the M issues or his part in what happened. Is he taking advantage of this sitch to escalate abusive behaviours? Was he like this before the A? He is whipping you on a daily basis! How does he expect anything good will come of such actions? Have you read up on abusive relationships? It might be worth doing. I may also be way off base here. He sounds like a man who is more interested in venting his anger and turning you into a slave than saving his M. What do you think?
