I don't think that anyone from this group has met in person. In general, we let a lot hang out on this forum and most try to keep any private email covos between persons of the same gender. The one or two people who have strayed from that seem to have developed some confused feelings. All of us here are trying to preserve our relationships and in the face of a so-so or nonexistent sex life it is tough going. However, if I ever went to a city where some of the ladies on this forum live I would have no problem meeting up with them. I think groups that are in the habit of meeting off-line might find that practice to have some unanticipated negative fall out. That said, you do need real, live support from somewhere. If you and your W attend Marriage Encounter or a Marriage Enrichment type program, a lot have groups that continue to meet afterward. Some of those programs have a religious overtone (Marriage Encounter) and others offer strictly secular.
