Jay,

Sorry - not from your area. Whether or not your W will participate I highlly reccommend finding a certified Marriage and Family therapist or sex therapist (AASECT) - both of these professional bodies should have a list for people in your area. Suport is good but it doesn't replace strategic help. Just make sure you interview the person thoroughly and make sure that their philsophy on marriage and their goals are in line with yours. If you don't click - see someone else!

Karen