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Some days are just so frustrating. At times I feel like we are never going to break down this wall. Tonight I went grocery shopping and got H one of those little debbie/ hostess cherry pies, he likes them. Anyway I said I have a surprise for you but you have to earn it, teasing right, well he was defensive immediately and said I am not going to do that. We discussed it a bit and he said he doesn't want to feel like he is begging for something, and he hates the whole you have to earn it thing. I said all you would have to do is say something nice, I also said I am just teasing and didn't know it bugged him. But that sort of interaction makes me feel like I dont know, like the wall is so high yet.

I did give him a kiss on the cheek today and a hug before he left for work, and that felt okay and seemed to be recieved okay, but who knows