Quote: I too thought if he ever came back it would be all hearts and flowers.
I know of only one S who came back and she acted all nice to her LBS. I think the "honeymoon" phase some go through (hearts/flowers) isnt' the best, it seems to fade and the intentions go down the drain.
My H came back broken, aloof and sad, not wanting nor giving affection. As months went by we got closer and closer (w me initiation most if not all affection) and now he likes to cuddle w/me, wants me around when he is doing something, kisses me good night.
It takes time gals, months, don't cling you your H's neck, remember the attractive, confident gals you were when your H's were courting you
inpain, don't let fear overcome you, as Michelle says in her book "you are stronger than that aren't you?" DO things that make you happy, if you depend on your H"s mood to be happy, something is very wrong.
You can make it, take charge of your own happiness, your H and you aren't on the same pg, let him find his way to you, slowly but surely.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
