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thanks everyone. It helps to know that others have been through this and it does take time. H has been quiet all weekend and last night. He has had a cold so that is part of the problem, he always gets quiet when he is sick, but he also seems distracted/distant. We haven't had a relationship talk since counseling session. Mostly he is discussing with me stuff he wants/needs me to do, and the kid juggling.

We have planned out our Holiday and seem to agree, I offered and he decided it was a good idea to go see his parents late on Christmas Day and return home the next day, he only has the one day off. My relationship with his mother was a problem for him, and he has already labeled this a "milestone", my going up there with him, it will be a test, I cannot complain about a thing and I need to make nice the whole time. Grin and bear it essentially as I never said anything to her, but complained to him. Won't do that anymore. I told him in counseling that I may still be bugged by stuff, but he won't have to hear it. I also said in comparison to losing my marriage, this stuff just doesn't matter. That is the best I can do, I can't suddenly get excited about the stuff that bugs me, but I can deal with it. At least I hope so. I hate that he labeled this a test, I don't think he meant to when he noted it as a milestone, but he did. His Mom was here this weekend for a day and I made nice, at least I thought I did. I was appreciative of the stuff she did and so forth, thanked her for coming etc. I don't know, was I supposed to do more? I asked him if he was upset about something from the weekend and he said no. I guess I have to take that as the answer.

sigh