Found out about H's affair

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I'm so sorry for what you're going through right now. My H left me out of the blue for an OW while we were tying for a baby.

There are 2 interpretations for your sitch. Either he's a cold hearted b*stard, or he's totally besotted with the idea of 'being in love' and prepared to throw away something much better for this temporary thrill. I think you owe it to your children to give it enough time to find out which.

Unfortunately at the moment I think he's still besotted. The fact she left him unfortunately meant he didn't have a chance to work it out of his system and learn the truth. I storngly recommend a book called 'Not Just Friends' by Shirley Glass which is a very comprehensive guide to infidelity, why people do it, why it's a BAD idea and how you can recover.

And it's perfectly normal to still have feelings for him! Marriage isn't something to be thrown away lightly. You will meet alot of people who tell you to ditch him. But not on this forum. Infidelity is recoverable. Many people here have proved that.