- H accepted my offer to join him in looking at new office space yesterday (over the summer he had been uncharacteristically leaving me out of things like that, normally he wants my company) - H has been saying ILY when he ends a phone call. - H dealt well with a mini-crisis with D's schoolwork last night.
On other fronts - think I may have simplified my Xmas shopping by figuring out one gift I can give to several couples on my list. Last time I was in the drug store, they had a demo model of a massage pad that you put in a chair - it felt pretty good! Today I saw a similar "shiatsu"-type model in Target for $89 (there are cheaper models, but supposedly they just vibrate? This one has rollers that go up and down your spine).
I'm thinking this may be good for the in-laws, and certain other hard-to-buy-for people on my list.
Great positives about H, but what about the positives about YOU?? You seem to be in a much better frame of mind and moving out of a stuck place. This is to be expected from you, of course, but it is still wonderful to see.
Anyway, how about affirming some of the progress on you :-)
Thanks for the hug, Oldtimer. Squeeze that cute baby of yours for me.
Yes, I was in a bit of a funk - but although it can be hard to recognize one's own moodiness, and I AM menopausal, I do still believe that mine was mostly in response to H's - that is, I was letting myself get sucked into his negativity, depressed by his depression, etc. I know better, of course - but sometimes, when the blue period has been going on for a long time (his) - the lack of affection and attention gets SO wearing.
He's been on the upswing for a bit, now, though, and I DO need to focus on the positives and reward them. All those crumbs will eventually add up to a cupcake.
Meanwhile, I get to go away by myself for a few days next week to a conference - a little respite from the Sturm und Drang of life at home.
(S14 actually came up to me the other day and told me he has Seasonal Affective Disorder! I guess I'd better take him seriously, as I blew him off when he first told me he had OCD years ago - and he was right! I see a mildly cloudy day, and think "oh, a nice day to cosy up with a good book and a cup of tea". He looks outside and says "mom, it's DEPRESSING outside". And we're just talking about a little California coastal gray clouds - not serious weather.)
Anyway - H is excited about his new career path, and I am excited for him. Meanwhile, I'm still working out the technical details to begin working part-time next year with my doc. I'm a little nervous about how I'll balance things at work and home, since H's new work will be all-consuming for a while, but it will be a relief to have some small income of my own coming in.
I like this new thread! Positive vibrations, yeah! I think you found the perfect job for you! Your background and interest in helping people will make you a treasured part of that office in no time. And I think with your youngest being 14 now is a good time for you to start something new and interesting for YOU !
How nice that you got to see S! My D came home too...It was great to see her, she is growing up into a fine young lady. She took me out to the movies, we saw "Stranger than Fiction" which I really enjoyed.
I had bought a small turkey, 10 lbs thinking we were only going to have 4 for dinner. At the last minute that number more than doubled to 9! Luckily the newcomers were vegitarian and they brough plenty of food so we had a great time and those all important leftovers!
2006 has been a big year for a lot of us! Guess what big thing got scratched off my list!
Take care, Ellie and good luck!
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
Just catching up on your posts and situation. Thanks for your support on my thread also!!
It was really great reading your first post here and seeing how looking back you see the cycles so much more clearly. It's amazing how time can go on and we don't really see these things.
Your positives sure look good. Hope they continue and you can add more soon.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
and the sheltie would have had such a good time, what with turkey scraps and all!!!!