Quote: I want to know how you got thru menopause in a few months?? what's the secret you're not sharing?
LOL!! Not such a good secret - stay on birth control pills WAY too long, then stop - develop SEVERE hot flashes - then start bioidentical hormones.
Quote: Quote: but he's never been any different way
ewww, I cringed when I read that. I look at H and think the very same thing. Then I look at myself and wonder if he thinks the same thing about me. Have I changed in any way? If I/me/myself really really change what I am doing, wouldn't that in effect change the whole dynamic of whatever situation I would get into with H?
Oh, I knew somebody would call me on that. In this case, I think my 180 is to NOT let H draw me into that cycle, of him complaining, me scurrying around trying to "fix" whatever he thinks is the problem this time, trying to be more this or more that. He needs to deal with his own happiness issues without constantly pointing the finger at me. I'm a good, faithful, loving, attentive, supportive wife, and if he can't deal with the fact that right now I'm physically unable to be the skinny athletic companion he wants (despite pretty good effort on my part) then he can BITE ME!!!!!!!!
