If your H has already ended the A and is willing to work on the M, then you're way ahead of many of us. My H had an A and has "ended" it many times. Each time, not quite ending it completely. It's been hell. I know you feel a whole range of emotions... adn that's good. Let yourself feel them, then move on to forgiveness. You have a real shot at not only fixing your M, but making it great! Try to look at this as an opportunity to address the things taht have been swept under the rug for years.
