Thanks for the quick response. I will take your advice and get some of those books you suggested. Its weird, I feel almost embarrased to have to read something like that. Pretty weird. Or maybe not. We cant switch shifts, unfortunately. But I have confided in a few friends and they are being very supportive, of both of us, and have offered to look after the kids so we can get some 'us' time. My 5 year old knows somethings wrong, cause mommy cant stop crying. I try really hard to control my emotions, but I seem to not have any control over anything at this point. We are trying to work on being friend, but I am so distrustful that I am still going thru his e-mails...I wont let him have his cell phone back because I am afraid she will contact him. But regardless, I think that no matter what measures I take, if its going to happen it will. Perhaps this cant get any better if he continues to work at the same place. Every time he walks out that door, I feel like I am sending him right to her. The OW accused me of being a bad wife and basically told me that I dont know anything about his troubles. Perhaps she's right.
