I'm sorry you're going through this, but glad to hear your husband wanted to end the affair and work on his marriage. That's a great thing. Not all spouses do that, some leave for the OP so the fact that he's willing to stay with you and deal with the fallout shows some character on his part.
I will tell you it's not easy dealing with all this. You will be on a rollar coaster. One book I read says it takes 1-2 years from the time of discovery to work through an affair.
My suggestion to you is read books on the topic (i.e. "After the Affair," "Divorce Busting" and "Not 'Just Friends'"), read general relationship books (many good ones are mentioned here, but just parking yourself at a Barnes and Noble or library and reading through them is good too).
Read the resources and other information on this website.
I want you to know the feelings you have are very normal and at times they may be really intense. Sometimes you'll love your husband and other times you'll hate him and have tremendous anger about the whole thing. It's totally normal and trust is not something you can automatically grant. It's something that takes time to build. In the meantime just try to work on being friends.
If you can, hire someone to clean the house, see about changing work hours so you can spend more time together. And start planning dates!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
