Had a terrible morning and MY H lost his temper like he does and called me an IDIOT<< but you know what I stayed very calm.

This was my DAY,, my H wanted me to go buy a MiniVan in a town roughly 2 hours away and I have only been there once, he used to work there everyday for a few months.And then drive two more hours and go to a DMV and get commercial license plates for one of his work trucks.
I was willing and last nite he told me I will give you directions once you get to the exit,,,, I asked him for the directions this morning when his spritis seemd good and I know how he can get later when he is busy working, I wanted to be prepared. He said the name of a street that was nearby and so I looked up directions for myself on the internet and printed them and I went to rent a car and I was on my way. I was driving and then I see that my "fully" charged cell phone is @ to die and I call and tell him my phone is dying and I will try to get a charger for it on the way and call you later.( no CAR charger for my phone it is sold out)

Well I got to the subdivision I was supposed to get to and called him with what little battery was left and the phone died.

I know I should have called him when I got to the exit but I hoped to see the van near the subdidvison and knew he would get ugly so I tried to avoid the unavoidable,, Bad move!
I went to a gas station to use the pay phone and the phone was out of order,,

the next Gas station too and then when I reached him I nicely told him I am at the exit you told me to get off on and could yoU please give me directions on how to get there and then I can go get the Van,,,, he EXPLODED.

MIND YOU ALL HE HAD TO SAY WAS TURN LEFT GO STRAIGHT FOR @ 6 MILES AND THEN TURN RIGHT AND WITHIN A MILE YOU WILL SEE THE VAN PARKED THERE.

Instead he went on a TYRADE,,,,,,, how can you be so stupid , you must have passed the Mcdonalds to get to that subdivision, and when I said I actually did not see a Mcdonalds he blew up even more,,,, I tried to diffuse the situation but his anger just kept escalating,, the coins I deposited were not enough and so the call ended THANK THE LORD FOR THAT.
I had warned him to just give me the directions or the call would end. I go into this Gas Sation and I buy a calling card and when I get back out to the phone booth some man is taking it apart... SHEESH.

But again I took a deep breath stayed calm, very calm actually ( plus I was driving a Brand New Nissan Maxima, and the sun was coming out,, LIFE IS GOOD )

During his tyrade I kind of thought I read between the lines how to get there and so I did find the Mcdonalds intersection,, I called him again and asked him to tell me which way to go and he still wanted to argue,, I just do not get it???

I calmy stated,, I do not want to argue so can you please just give me the directions,, he stubbornly asks me did you pass this intersection before and I said (CALMY AGAIN) NO I DID NOT.

He gave me the directions which were turn left when you leave the Gas Station and if you get to the Citgo and you do not see the Van you went to far,,,,, well I got to the Citgo and I never saw a van,,



------------------->but you know what I passed the subdivision I was at earlier and when I got to the Citgo.

It was the first Gas Station I went to,, so I came into the subdivision on the right and he always came in on the left of it.
He specifically asked me to call him whether the van was there or not and I did.

---------------> and then he askd me if I needed directions to Madison and I actualy did cause he told me he would help at least get to the hwy and which way to take.

I nicely replied "Actually NO I have directions in the car".


I did have directions to the DMV but from my home and not from the city I was in.But I had stopped at a Gas Station earlier to ask which way to go to get to the Mcdonalds /Walgreens intersection and so he was soo nice and I thought well I will head back there and buy a map and be on my way.

He asked me if I found what I was looking for and I replied Yes Thank You soooooo much , that is why I came back here to buy a Map cause you were so nice to me and Now I need to head to Madison,, he told me how to get there and I left with my Map too. ( Just in case)

Anyway I arrived at the DMV to get the Commercial Plates and you know what I received the best blessing,,, I got my number and I waited for one Man ahead of me and then I was next,, the Lady said they are NORMALLY SO CONGESTED IT TAKES A MINIMUM OF 2 TO 3 HOURS TO GET YOUR PLATES,,,, I was in and out in @ 10 MINUTES , I REPEAT 10 MINUTES, SERIOUSLY and I also renewed the License Plates for the other truck he has to Renew on on December 30th while I was there. And I told her I know why I only had to wait in line for 2 minutes instead of 2-3 hours b/c God is surely blessing me for being a good person! SHE JUST SMILED.

I now know that when he comes home I will tell him that giving or getting directions is a sore subject with him and I do not want to give or get directions any more,,,, he was frustrated with work when I spoke with him in the morning and he was calling me sweet pet names and then later when he must have been just stressed to the max from work I recieved the whole enchilada and boy it was a big one.

I sobbed when I got off the phone with him and then later when I spoke to him I did not get an apology but he was very quiet and so I knew that meant he regretted saying all that stuff to me.


I was very proud of myself today for not arguing back and not gettng in an argument and when he said you are going to give me a HeartAttack .I calmy stated you are the only one that is yelling and you are going to give yourself one.

Well if you are stil reading @ this crazy day Thank you, from the bottom of my heart and if you have any thoughts I surely would be blessed to hear them.

And I guess for me it was so nice not to have to sit and wait for hours,, I had no magazine nor any power left on my Ipod. I was just bracing myself to be there for hours on end,,,,, and I was pleasantly suprised.

I also discovered,, I really do love my cell phone and yes it was sort of a pain to have to use the DINOSAUR Payphones, but at the same time I was able to enjoy my drive and I learned a valuable lesson,, love me the most when I deserve it the least still holds alot of power in my book. My H probably deserved for me to hang up on him he even said HELLO a few times thinking I had hung up on him and I would reply I am still here I will not hang up on you I do not do that. And yet I did not and I did not let him get to me and in the end I was blessed.

Thank God for Gas Stations and the people who work there and for the few payphones that still exist.
God bless....