I read a really good book called "How Can I Forgive You" and one of the things they talk about in the book goes beyond forgivness.
It is about the person who causes the pain validating the pain they have caused. It is one thing to be able to forgive but for the victim to have their pain acknowledged and to feel understood makes a huge difference.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
