Finding me....

[COG]

Ali,

Whoa! Take it easy now girl. Check the calendar, are you maybe PMSng? Just find a nice quiet place and turn to God. He's the best medicine.

Please realize how fortunate you are to have your H at home with you, AND you have a sex life. I've got the W, but not the sex, and I'm trying to stay grateful for that. She does'nt have any tatoos, but there's an invisible wall that's seems impenatrable. Go ahead and get upset with your sitch, but also say a prayer of thanks for the good things you have.

You have every right to be disgusted, hurt, angry, etc., about the tatoo. I think maybe an appropriate 180 would be for you to let him know how much it hurts when you make love and have to see it. Describe how it feels. And here's a real tough one, tell him you can't ML with him. Tell him it just hurts too much. "H, I understand it's just ink and letters on your chest, but it just puts me out of the mood for sex. I hope you understand. I wish it was'nt that way but I still love you. Hopefully someday I'll be able to ML to you and it won't bother me seeing it. But, please be patient with me so I can work through it". Maybe if he spends a little time M in the bathroom he'll get a little more motivated to get rid of that thing. In any case, you can't hold his hand with this. It's up to him to do the right thing.

In the meantime, I suggest you go out and kick a carboard box around the yard a few times. You'll have to work something out in your own mind because even if he gets the tatoo fixed, there'll still be an image there forever. It's your heart that needs to keep the appointment with the fixer.

Now go get back on that horse.

God Bless,

COG