Exposing the affair...

[MariS]

I did expose my WAH-MLCer's out of state A back in June, after he had already broken it off, but I didn't know.

In hind site, I wish I had stopped snooping & had not done it. Too bad I didn't know about DR then.

Now that we have been separated 4 months, I learned 3 weeks ago that he is having another A.

I have chosen not to expose it & let it run it's natural course. (last one lasted 6 months) Let friend/OW make the mistakes, or when I am served papers, it will come out.

THIS however, is extremely hard to do. The internal turmoil & stress for us, the LBS, is already high, but w/this new secret, it makes things even tougher. Then the holiday season doesn't help either.

From my personal experience, if you can wait it out, don't expose the A. Let the WAS live their double life & work through their MLC.