I have been reading and I have to say that on some level I see both sides, Although I exposed A to my MIL as she and my SIL both had asked W if there was someone else. After they asked that she became somewhat distant to them and even though I have issues I have to overcome whether it works or not and MIL says she is not going to confront her more that now they know what they know we will all pray that W sees my changes and thinks twice before going down the D road for all of our sakes not just the kids. W and family are from a very strict religion. She even sought guidance from Pastor (MC) to see what her Biblical options were and he said that they were not in the business of breaking up marriages but rather rebuilding. I havent done the best job at DBing but we are still in the same house and other than my talks of R or A I am becoming a better person - Besides this guy has 3 kids and 2 divorces himself. I told W several times if she thought she would be happier somewhere else then I would do whatever but I would not tell our kids that we mutually wanted to split b/c if they spent more time with her thay would probably look at me as the bad guy and I shouldn't be put in that position. At first I was willing to take all the blame for where and how we got here but the more I thought and the fact that she wouldn't have liked it if I did that to her I exposed. Sorry for the long post.
