I told everyone! I do mean everyone. I was so livid that 2nd day after finding out I even changed his outgoing message on his cell phone. It was not nice either. Everyone who called heard it. He was furious. Only because he was embarassed and ashamed. Just as well IMO. My rule of thumb the entire time we have been married was always if it would cause him pain then I wouldn't do it. And I agree affairs only flourish if they continue to be kept secret. I can tell it has only been about 3 weeks since I found out and he seems to already be having issues with her.
