I agree with not exposing the A. I snooped, confronted H and then told his sisters. His sisters had suspected an A all along, but I kept defending H saying that he would never cheat on me. Boy, was I wrong! I was in so much pain and couldn't believe that H could cheat on me. I am close to H's sisters, I didn't go to them to try to turn them against H . I don't think H sees it this way at all and I can't blame him.
If I were to do it over again I wouldn't have told his family. H was so angry with me for exposing the A . It has been about 8 months now since I told his family and H has told me that he will never forgive me for going to his family and "airing our dirty laundry". I did apologize to H for snooping into his private cell records . I told him I had no right to do this and hoped that he could forgive me someday. ( The DBing coach told me I should apologize )
Things between us now are finally getting better , but it took 8 months to get here. At least now he is friendly to me, but still keeps his distance.
