Here is the situation. About two months ago, I got the whole I love you, but I am not in love with you anymore. She wanted her space. She owned our home previous to our marriage, so I had to leave. Mind you all of my stuff is there and I go by the house daily. Over the course of the past two months, I found many things that hinted to the affair. Even caught her on the phone with the guy. She claimed it was just a shoulder to cry on. Whatever.
But this weekend, I heard from several people that she has indeed been fooling around. Drinking till all hours of the night at the clubs, flirting, etc. She has distanced herself from her family (I was even staying with her parents for a few weeks), and they don't know who she is anymore. What complicates matters is that she is moving to London for two years for a job.
Up until 30 minutes ago, she thought I knew nothing of what was going on. But when I told her I wanted to talk to her in person, she asked why, and I spilled the beans. Told her that many people know whats going on. She was shocked, her response was 'interesting'. Didn't even try to deny it this time around.
So, what I will gain from exposing this further is that it should help end the affair, and maybe open her eyes up to the pain and suffering she is causing everyone. Perhaps that will cause her to get help, as I truly believe she is mentally unstable at the time.
Hope that adds a bit. I've accepted the fact that there is a 99% chance that we will be ending the marriage. But maybe by waking her up, I can get back the woman I fell in love with and married. She clearly isn't that person right now.
