Exposing the affair...

[MariS]

Well, I too didn't have full proof of WAH-MLCer's A until it was over. I chose to expose it & did tell a few people(family, close friends & neighbor), mainly because WAH-MLCer commented that he didn't care who knew & everyone would side w/him. (but I found out later he really did care what other thought of him)

I'm not the type of person to "sweep" things under the rug. I feel that in order to heal, the wound has to be exposed & cleaned, no matter how hurtfull it is.

Now, after all of the damage, we are separated as of August & "seem" to be doing better. WAH-MLCer still has his own issues. Still hoping & praying that we can rebuild. I have honestly forgive WAH-MLCer (BTW, that takes lots of time), but don't think he has forgiven himself or how I reacted/treated him.

If I had know what I know now, I still would have exposed the A, but could have handled our R/M better. Truly wish I had DR book a lot sooner.