Quote: How long do I have to be the one to be kept on the side line before my needs and at least started to be meet? Another 3 months, 6 months, a year????
Maybe it will be that long...
Look for a book called Peace Between the Sheets, which talks about getting closer in a physically erotic way that may feel less threatening to your wife. There was a big thread on it here on this board started by Corri. Don't have time to search for it now. If you have a fast computer, you might search on this site for that title and look for a long thread by Corri.
Look for this book on amazon and read the reviews. It's a place to start.