Thanks for the major hugs! I do understand what you are saying and I agree. We started off seeing in counseling separately and now we are going together. We do in fact spend a lot of time talking about the past and it does help both of us. I also know that by my wife shutting down on me shows a lot and the therapist even says so. In fact, my wife said that there is no one else that she loves more or trusts more then me.
Having said all of that, I do love her and it’s just hard. I too have feelings, wants and needs. How long do I have to be the one to be kept on the side line before my needs and at least started to be meet? Another 3 months, 6 months, a year???? When I married her, I meant forever and through the good times and bad, however I need to have some kind of intimacy with my wife……
As far as her father goes, I don’t believe that someone should die alone. My wife is an RN and I’m a Firefighter/paramedic. Between the two of us, we can take care of him until it becomes too much. Lou, I think at that time we would use hospice. I just fear that this will put yet another wedge between us. My wife says it will not and that we will have that side of our relationship back again. I just don’t know when……
I understand the trauma that she has been through, it just doesn’t make it any easier. I have to do something, however I just don’t know what…..
