Sorry for the delay. It’s been a bit crazy with Thanksgiving coming up so fast.
As far as the abuse, it came from her entire family. Along with that, for the past 7 years it’s been hard also. She broke her back at work, was bed ridden for 6 years, had 4 spinal surgeries. I had to work 3 jobs to keep up with the meds, and bills, she had to go into detox, we got into financial trouble, almost lost everything and while all of this was going on, we had a young daughter to take care of. Oh, another thing, her father is also on death’s door. We think we’ll have him move in with us and take care of him. However is this going to set us back???
As far as feeling selfish, I’m not sure why I feel that way. Maybe it’s because I get pushed away???? All I know is if I push, she thinks about leaving. It just kills me that when she shuts down, I have to be the one to get place on the back burner.
Now I see us getting better, however as long as there is no intimacy involved….
