Welcome aboard, hube. Don't worry about making your posts short. We love long posts here , and we love-- and need-- DETAILS.

Who verbally abused your wife?

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when I move towards my wife, it pushes her away. So, what am I to do? I know this may sound selfish to some of you

If you've read this board at all (and I urge you to browse the sex-starved forum a lot) you will know that no one here would EVER accuse you of being selfish because you want your sexual needs to be acknowledged by your wife. I'm curious as to where you got the idea that you're being selfish... from your W? From the therapist? This is perfectly normal, healthy, and not selfish at all. Who is telling you it is?