Now, more than ever before, it's time to turn your attention toward yourself, your own behavior. STOP looking to him for anything. You can do this. You're letting your fear control you, and it's freezing you in place.
I'm sorry things are painful now - but I'm going to pull out the 2x4 here. You're wallowing in it, you're making it painful for yourself. Control your expectations, pull yourself together and let him pull away without you clinging to him. Let him be who he is, and he may decide that he is someone who wants to give you want you want and need. He never will decide to do this while you try and coerce it from him. You don't know what is to come, but if you continue to try and predict it you will determine it. If you believe you can do it, or you believe you can't, you're right, either way.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
