Thanks for the support, guys. I just don't know what else I was to do. If I let it go then it escalates into a situation that could become physical. I have set my boundaries in that I only step in when this type of situation occurs. Normally, I let W make her own bed and deal with her R with the children. Anything I do that points out a "fault" on her part is totally unacceptable to her (although she has no problem ripping a strip off me in front of the kids). I am proud that I kept my cool. It is just so easy to let go and get into a real brawl. The last one that is what happened and I said alot of things that shouldn't have been said (some that needed to be as well!). I DO NOT want to manage my sitch based on angry emotions. Bad decisions get made that way. Last time I threatened to end the M, not a good move when it's based on anger rather than hard thought. So, W returned about 9:30 pm, changed and went to bed in the basement. No contact at all. Today, she kept our bedroom door closed as she changed: message: STAY THE HELL OUT. So I did. The girls were quite worried that mom wouldn't come home so I had to re-assure them that mom was just angry at me and that she would come back, not to worry. How selfish can you be to leave your kids worrying about whether you are going to come home or not. At least phone and tell them you'll be home late. I'm a big boy, trash me if you want but treat the kids properly!!! Act like a friggin mother instead of child. You know, this was one of her complaints about me, I expect her to act like an adult! What a bastard, eh!
