Pushing it to the limit (or Perfection 3)

[~Sol]

Hey Whatisis. It's unfortunate to have your wonderful daughters in those kind of abusive confrontations with your W. How old is the youngest? The 12Yr old might be better able to cope, but I can see the anger in how your W is dealing with them and I applaud you in your handling of it. It just breaks my heart to see these 2 young girls have to go through with that. My W recently had an ugly confrontation with our D7 over some manners! My D does need to show more respect to adults, especially mom and dad, but she tends to get upset whenever her convserations with me are interrupted by my W. D said some remarks to W about that, and W lost it. She got so upset she took a large plate and smashed it in the kitchen and started yelling at D. I was shocked, and D was shaking, crying, W was crying. I understood my W's point of view, and I wanted my D to stop arguing. Man, they were both going at it. I never knew my W to lose it like that with D, and she complained that D was always telling my W how "mean" she was, which p.o.'d W even more. Well, I was about to discipline my D, and restrained myself in dealing with W at the time. I let the sitch unwind itself, and had a talk with D. Later, I had a talk with W, who was going through some weird emotions at that time. I hate these kind of abusive confrontations from W, and I hate seeing W and D fight so bitterly. Makes me wonder if W is truly sane at times??? I just want to be sure that there are no future blow outs like that.


Well, that was about 2 weeks ago. Our sitch has completely gone 180 now, and I hope it will last. W is starting to come around, but I wonder if it's jut to have someone other than ex-OM to lean onto? Hmm, not sure, but I need to stop having these "second guesses" pop into my mind. I sincerely believe we connected somehow yesterday, but like you told me, I won't take her really good days and cold days with me too seriously, though I did enjoy her recent "warming up" to me!

Again, you did the best you could do in handling your sitch! I'm sure you were fuming while that was going on, but you kept your cool. I did the same thing, and it was very, very hard for me to control my anger with both W and D. Consider it a major 180! I'm sure there will be more of these outbursts down the road, but we can be the peacemakers!