Pushing it to the limit (or Perfection 3)

[NikB]

I think your 180 is great!! I hope she makes a suggestion, but I think it's perfect to leave it to her.

On your second question... wow, that's a tough one. I personally wouldn't go with the "not in celebration of our M" line (not so much my style, but it might work for you and it it might get her attention).

You said last year you went out as a family - would you like to do that again, or would you want to go just the two of you if she asks? I was thinking it might work to say "Great let's make it a family night and take the kids, where should we go?" That kind of implies the celebration of your family but not your M without stating it directly. What do you think?