Thanks, CM. I think sometimes the person we are enamoured with is the person we knew a long time ago, not the person who exists now. We are chasing a fantasy within the M just as our S's are chasing one outside the M. The person I loved is gone! The person my W loved is gone too. We're both at square one again. If my W is unwilling to even look at herself or commit to compromise in the R then there is no healthy R. So why drive myself nuts over someone I really don't want to be emotionally intimate with anyway. Those are my thoughts today, but tomorrow is a new day!
Quick addition: I should probably look at myself too. Understand how I let myself become so enmeshed with someone who gave less and less while I allowed that to go on. She isn't the only one with issues to address in order to make this or any future R successful.
