Well, said goodbye to W this morning and skipped the goodbye kiss. Normally, I kiss her on the cheek and wish her a good day. Today I wished her a good day and expressed my hopes that the situation we discussed re work would turn out well, then left. She stood near me appearing to be waiting for the kiss on the cheek, it never came. That was very difficult for me because one of the things I always wanted to do was carry on in a way that I felt showed affection, for us and for the kids. But, I’m thinking that I am just too darn available! She knows I’m there and waiting. In hindsight, I have noticed when I pull away or make myself less available she tends to seek me out. So I may follow this and just cut back on my “availability, not in a hostile “I’ll fix you” manner but just by spending more time with ME and worrying less about interacting with her. It’s dead so I might as well continue on with that in mind. It was funny, last night I went downstairs (to check in with you guys) and when I returned W was on the phone with OP going over the same sh!t she just went over with me! I noticed OP seems to ask more questions e.g. “why do you think that happened” and “what do you think you should do” rather than making comments about the situation. She doesn’t tell my W what to do but asks questions to get her to tease it out. That’s called SF Counselling. OP is using her skills wisely, I will take note of this and use those skills myself in future discussions with W. Live and learn. Have a great day fellow DBers.
P.S. Yes, Tom I am an Ontarian, Northern ON is so beautiful isn't it!
1210, fries and gravy!! mmmmmm mmmmmm. Don't forget the poutine! (that's more a French Canadian thing). If you're gonna wallpaper your arteries you might as well do it right!
