This, my friend, is where I'm at too. I think the only way to move beyond this codependancy stuff is to really stop looking for a response to your actions from your W or the R. I think it's truly about picking your own actions for your own sake (allowing for compromise resulting from direct and open communication) and moving on. Accepting the R is over doesn't preclude it from beginning anew - in fact I think it's your best bet for allowing this to happen.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
