Quote: Thanks OT, the fact that she's going away with OP also makes this poem a little much! I love it and I love her but I'll try for something a little less smothering...like a pillow over her face OK, that wasn't funny, I know. Maybe next year ( the poem not the pillow)? It's really tough trying to figure out what would be meaningful and not too overwhelming. Hey, maybe I could go away for the weekend and give her a break from me, that might be the perfect Anniversary gift
While I think perhaps you were being sarcastic, I think that is a great idea.
"W, I want to give us both the space we need right now to find happiness. With that in mind, my anniversary gift to you is to give us both some space on what will be a hard day for both of us. I give this out of love. I don't want to make it harder on either of us than it needs to be. So, to be very direct, let us try to relax about it and take the pressure off. I sincerely hope that you will enjoy the day and find it restorative. I'll be spending the weekend doing things that bring joy to me (hiking, going to museums, whatever floats your boat...)."
Best,
Oldtimer
[EDITED to remove unhelpful reminder that you want different things...]
