Only you can decide how well your W will receive anything, but I would try to make this year something special. If you don't want romance - then you still can do something special - what would she enjoy? What would excite her to say "Oh, my gosh" to you? A book, dinner, jewelry, movie, a dress to ballroom dance in, anything...
Just try to make it different this year...how about cooking a really nice dinner at home, wine, candles w/o any type of expectations, have the kids there as well.
