I finally got over here to read your thread, and I'm so happy to hear how well things are going for you. I know there's still a ways to go--hopefully Retrouvaille will help with that. It is piecing, though, isn't it?
I think you know my H returned without fanfare (just with 2 dogs!!), and we still don't have too much R talk, though when I feel the need to bring something up, I do it. I think it still makes him uncomfortable to talk very much about the A and all the other pain he caused--I'm sure he still feels guilty. For a long time, there were answers I'd have liked to have had, but as time passes, they become less important to me. And in order to really move forward (both personally and the R), we do need to concentrate on the future, not the past. I am quite certain the A is over, though, and before I was, I really couldn't make much progress.
Our physical R didn't take too awfully long to come back--a month or two, I'd say, despite my having heard that he didn't think he could ever desire me again. I know it's hard, but give your H space in that arena for now. If you had a good PR in the past, I think you'll find it eventually comes back. Ours, actually, is probably better than it ever was.
Anyway, you sound so strong and positive these days, it is great to hear! Sounds like your kids are doing better too--and it's an ongoing job for a while to get them to accept their father back into their lives after all this. Keep up the great work, and my best wishes to all of you!
