First off, you may lock soon? I think you're up to nine pages?
Second, I want to make it very clear that my intent with my post was not to advocate any particular position, rather to point out the consequences of the decision I took. Didn't want to hijack to talk about me, certainly, but my experience is certainly relevant. Having said that:
About the money thing… I guess you’re right. I am probably a little bit in denial about the reality that a D might be on the horizon (ok, maybe more than a little bit).
Depends. To me, denial is
"This is not happening to me." I hope where you are is more like this... "This is happening, but I'd like to do everything I can where I have control to change this."
I feel SO strongly that we can and will pull through this and reconcile, but I need to be more realistic about what else might happen.
Well, the way I'd say it is
"Hope for the best, plan for the worst, and expect something in the middle."
What you don't want to do is perhaps what I do too much of and that's focus so much on the worst that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Conversely, if you bury your head in the sand and believe a D is not possible and then it happens.... that would be a long, hard fall.
I don’t want to make him angry or hurt our future chances, but since I think asking for even $1/month would make him angry that ship has pretty much sailed.
Bottom line is that you have to do what you think is right. Don't sell yourself short, essentially rolling over and being a doormat now. Just realize that decisions made here could have consequences later. That was what I was getting at. I didn't give much thought at all to repercussions of my intial agreement to the finances.
Take care, and rest assured that if oldtimer is looking in on you, you're in good hands. I make a point to see out oldtimers posts for my own benefit, and try to point others in that direction too.
S_O_T_S aka: Stoic_On_The_Surface
I can't quite get there cause my heart's forsaken me - KT Tunstall
