EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries Part 2

[NikB]

Hey one more quick question for you guys. Any thoughts on our savings accounts? Part of our financial “plan” included that I did most of the saving for things like home repairs or improvements, while he paid the mortgage. BUT, I’m also a much better “saver” in general than he is. So we have some savings accounts that we’ve always considered “ours” such as the house fund. However, there are also several that we’ve always considered “mine” such as the one from my stock plan at work. I also save throughout the year for car insurance, registration, Christmas, etc. while H tends to just pay for those types of things out of his most recent paycheck.

What this means is, we’ve got a fair amount of both “my” and “our” money set aside in savings, but H doesn’t have much of “his” money saved. I am now seeing the wisdom of combining finances more than we ever did….<sigh>. We never really had money issues til now though.

I had hoped to just leave all the savings accounts as is except possibly using “our” account to purchase any furniture either of us might need. The rest I’d hope to only worry about them if we D… but I realize that if things get ugly H may push to split them up now. Any suggestions??

I am so glad our 401(k)s are roughly equal. This is a nightmare.