Thanks for your post. Yeah, I really don’t feel right about the lock changing thing either. I am open to the possibility it might change but I think it sends the wrong message too – no trust, not welcome, somehing to hide, etc. If I were to get a rental I would probably give H a key actually, with the understanding that it’s for emergencies only. We still get along and are friendly (and trying to keep it that way if we can even with these tough negotiations).
About the money thing… I guess you’re right. I am probably a little bit in denial about the reality that a D might be on the horizon (ok, maybe more than a little bit). I feel SO strongly that we can and will pull through this and reconcile, but I need to be more realistic about what else might happen. I don’t want to make him angry or hurt our future chances, but since I think asking for even $1/month would make him angry that ship has pretty much sailed. Heck he’s even mad I can afford to live in our house by myself, since it blew his main argument out of the water. He can afford half the house and then some easily. If I were to move out, no way could I afford half – I’d need every dollar to live on.
Sorry to hear about your situation too. Good luck to you, I hope it works out better than it’s looking right now.
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Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
